MARRY WELL

Marry well is a statement little girls are told often, especially in some countries and cultures. It generally pertains to finances or social status. They are groomed to look for certain qualities and discard the rest. Recently, I had a situation arise and I went to God. His only response was, ”You heard what I said.”

I went on with my day, however, my emotions from the week got the best of me. When my husband came home, I talked to him briefly about my day and fell asleep. When I woke up, he was on his phone hard at work. By noon, he had taken care of my issue. He came through in a BIG way.

That night, as I reflected, I heard marry well. Those words hit differently at that moment. He wasn’t a multi-billionaire or the CEO of a Fortune 500 company, but I was proud to be his wife. Why? Because he could check the following boxes:

• Make sure he can support not only you but the dreams God has given you.

• Make sure he can pray you through a storm and cover you in battle.

• He may not be perfect, but make sure his heart is pure towards you.

• Make sure you can grow together. He may not have the drive today but with the right environment and timing, he can bloom.

Sis, make sure you don’t talk yourself out of your good thing… Marry Well!

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THE NEXT BIG THING

Jackson walked in with a huge smile on his face.  He gave Janet a kiss and placed something on the counter.  He watched intently as her eyes focused on the little blue box.  She looked up at him as he beamed with pride.  It didn’t matter what was inside she understood its value with one look. 

Over the last few months, I have had people stop me mid-sentence.  I could have gotten angry and told them how rude they were, but I try to remain teachable.  I needed them to confront my words and mindset in that moment.  It wasn’t personal.  They saw something I didn’t see. When I talked about the things God has placed in my hands, I often used the word little or small. 

The packaging speaks for itself.

It’s just a little book. 

I have a small group of ladies that I am working with.

My little company…

My little marriage and family.

Does any of that sound familiar? In the context of billions of people in the world, it is easy to limit the value of one thing compared to another.  We see it everyday with shoes, purses, cars, spouses, children, and the list can go on and on. The comparison trap… why can’t we just stand in our own light and shine like that Tiffany’s box knowing how valuable we are.  No one ever looks at the box and says, “man that’s small.”  Their eyes light up and some may even jump up and down before opening it. It’s reputation speaks for itself.

So what about the people that have got the box and put something of lesser value inside? In the Bible I am reminded of the story of the fig tree. Jesus saw the leaves and by all indication their should have been figs on the tree. When he found none, he cursed the tree. Please don’t think people get away with being deceptive. They ae eventually deceived themselves or have to pay some for of restitution for their lies.

They opened my eyes to a bigger picture.  There has never been anything small about me.  From my forehead to my weight.  I have always been larger than others.  So why would I try to shrink down now… blend in and hide if you will.  No one ever looks at an elephant and says he’s small even if it is just one standing alone. His presence is massive and so is yours

What am I saying?  It’s time for you to stand in your light and shine.  You are valuable and have work to do.  No matter how many mistakes you have made or how long it has taken you to get to this moment. You are here, so go blaze your trail.  Truth be told, YOU are the next big thing! You are more valuable than any blue box.